Fct 9 Akinrmie Bolaji: TO HER DAUGHTER ABOUT MARRIAGE
1. The wife that wins all arguments with her husband is not wise. The home is not a law
2. The wife that uses sex as a weapon in the home – placing embargo, going to bed in jeans shorts and
trousers -lacks wisdom.
3. The wife that uses the modern trends and laws of “women’s rights” to insult or ridicule her husband simply makes a fool of herself.
4. A woman that makes her home devoid of peace through bickering, nagging and quarrels needs help.
A man should be eager to run away from office to be at home, for that should be the safest and closest place on earth for him.
5. Modern-day equality in marriage does not mean competition, It simply means partnership. Taking advantage of such equality to turn around and become the defacto head of the home and oppress the man is tantamount to playing with fire. If you destroy your home, soon you will be the boss of an empty home.
6. A wise wife makes the man feel so good that he
assumes that he is the head. Once he gets that
feeling, the woman gently wields her power and the head actually turns to wherever the neck wants without a protest.
7. A wife that does not pull herself away from
friends’ influence and advice or even from the
control of her mother and father will have herself to blame.
8. When a man is looking for a wife, he bypasses
women of different shapes and sizes to choose a wife But soon after childbirth, many women hide under the excuse of childbirth to let go of themselves. Many stop bothering about their looks,shape, dressing, etc.
Within 5 years of marriage, people start wondering if the wife is the man’s aunt, even though she is 7 years younger. Her defence is that if he truly loves her, he should love her the way she is but when looking for a wife, he saw people like the present YOU and ignored them and settled for the former YOU. Today, you go to bed smelling of onions…. You go to bed wearing grandmothers’ clothes. Why are you playing with your marriage? Love is not about looks – we know But looks enhances love and marriage There is a difference between someone disfiguring herself and the person being disfigured by an accident. Please don’t be complacent. As hard as it may be, work on looking like you were when he first saw you and began the chase.
9. If every night you are tired, sleepy, sore, down
with headache or fever, “not in the mood,” you are a joker, a serious comedian!
10. If your children suddenly become more
important to you than your husband, you need
11. If you assume that as the woman, only you need to be pampered and fussed over while the man is a stone that has no emotions, you need to be pitied.
12. A woman that has the mind of a wife does not
excite her husband. Wives are usually complacent
and presumptuous. A wife must strive to have the mind of a girlfriend, A girlfriend is always nicer, sweeter, more loving and always thinking of ways to wow her sweetheart; a girlfriend does not try to win all arguments, does not call the man a “useless man”, is not careless about her looks or dressing, always smiles and laughs with the man, sends the man sweet
messages and calls, etc. Are you your husband’s
girlfriend in word and in deed?
LASTLY, DO NOT INFORM ME OF YOUR QUARRELS, I DIDN’T JOIN YOU TOGETHER, GOD DID, GO AND INFORM HIM AND HE WILL SORT YOU OUT..
God can work with only one or two men. Of course one with God is majority. Jonathan went with his amour bearer against the whole enemies having connected to God. And the scripture says,
And there was trembling in the host, in the field, and among all the people: the garrison, and the spoilers, they also trembled, and the earth quaked: so it was a very great trembling.
And the watchmen of Saul in Gibeah of Benjamin looked; and, behold, the multitude melted away, and they went on beating down one another. (1 Sam 14:15-16)
Why was there so much exploits? A man connected to God and said “this challenge is nothing, I am with God, and I know things will change”.
If you know the God you serve, you shall be strong and also do exploits in the name of Jesus.
The nation had a great exploit because a man rose up and fought for her. We can experience the same as a nation. But where are the men who will stand with God? Where are the Jonathans of this nation? Where are they?
A Cause to Arise
David had come to the battle front at a time of molestation and ridicules. The king and the rest of his army were there, but surprisingly they couldn’t do anything for forty days and forth nights. And when David came forward his brothers tried to stop him, but his heart was fixed, and he said, “Is there not a cause?”(Ref )
Beloved, do you see a cause for you to cry out to God for this nation? Are you saying, “Is there not a cause for me to arise?
If you are a business man or woman, you will know how difficult it is to do business in Nigeria without compromising.
Sometimes ago, the men in authority were behaving like the sons of Eli who asked for advance cut of ten percent from contract. In most cases the contractor must raise the ten present in cash before he could have access to the letter of contract. Now it is no more ten percent, they just inflate the contract rates to unimaginable levels and take their cut upfront.
A man once related his experience, how he was awarded a contract during the country’s 50th year independence anniversary. He was awarded of a N50 million contract which he actually executed, but when He completed the job He couldn’t believe what was billed. The contract had been blown to N250 million! This is the challenge. How many of us Christians in this country can sincerely say, “Am going to do business without going to compromising?
Davids of Our Time
There is need for men and women, Davids of our time, who will see a need as a cause they must respond to, even if everyone around is weak and confused. But where are they?
According to 1 Samuel 17:29, when confronted by his brothers, David firmly declared, “Is there not a cause?”
Before the people knew what was happening David caused a stir by his confidence and demonstration of faith in the Living God. He rose up and confronted the uncircumcised philistine.
“Now what have I done?” said David. “Can’t I even speak?” He then turned away to someone else and brought up the same matter, and the men answered him as before.
What David said was overheard and reported to Saul, and Saul sent for him.
David said to Saul, “Let no one lose heart on account of this Philistine; your servant will go and fight him.”
(1 Sam 17:29-37 NIV)
David brought down the uncircumcised philistine, Goliath of Gath, who for forty days despised the army of Israel and blasphemed the name of their God, and this led to great exploit over the hosts of the philistines.
It took a David to avert the impending doom on the army of Israel under the already perplexed and mesmerized King Saul. The beautiful story of this young man is captured in 1 Sam 17:48-54:
As the Philistine moved closer to attack him, David ran quickly toward the battle line to meet him.
Reaching into his bag and taking out a stone, he slung it and struck the Philistine on the forehead. The stone sank into his forehead, and he fell facedown on the ground.
So David triumphed over the Philistine with a sling and a stone; without a sword in his hand he struck down the Philistine and killed him.
David ran and stood over him. He took hold of the Philistine’s sword and drew it from the scabbard. After he killed him, he cut off his head with the sword.
When the Philistines saw that their hero was dead, they turned and ran.
Then the men of Israel and Judah surged forward with a shout and pursued the Philistines to the entrance of Gath g and to the gates of Ekron. Their dead were strewn along the Shaaraim road to Gath and Ekron.
When the Israelites returned from chasing the Philistines, they plundered their camp.
David took the Philistine’s head and brought it to Jerusalem, and he put the Philistine’s weapons in his own tent. (1 Sam 17:48-54 NIV)
Beloved, people will ask you why you are making that noise or that move for God and for your people. They will ask you, “What is your own? Are you the only one?” You need to tell them, “Is there not a cause?”
Esthers of Our Time
We also need people like Esther. But where are they? Where are the Esther’s of our time? Those who will boldly declare and say, “If I perish, I perish”.
Then Esther sent this reply to Mordecai: “Go, gather together all the Jews who are in Susa, and fast for me. Do not eat or drink for three days, night or day. I and my maids will fast as you do. When this is done, I will go to the king, even though it is against the law. And if I perish, I perish.” (Est 4:15-16 NIV)
Most of us at home are scared even to express our dissatisfaction of what we see in our leaders. We are like rats in a rat race, following the same unwholesome rules and wrong patterns of life for survival.
Beloved, even when you are first in the rat race, you are still but a rat. But God has not called you to be a rat. We belong to the family of the lion of the tribe of Judah. The Bible says that the righteous are bold like a lion. Of what stock are you?
Esther said, “If I perish, I perish”, and she averted the unjust death sentence hanging upon her people. She changed their condition permanently and rewrote their history in that land.
The question is where are the people who will rise up and speak for this country? Where are the men and women, who will serve God in this generation? Where are they?
Mordecais of Our Time
Where are the Mordecais that will say, “I know who I am, I am a Jew. I bow to no man, I bow only to God.” Who are those that will change the situation of our nation? Where are they?
Mordecai had become so burdened and he moved with the urgency of the matter. He took immediate steps and sent a message to Esther in the palace. He did not bow his head in sorrow or fear of the imminent doom being plotted for his people.
In Esther 4:6-8, the scripture says about Mordecai,
So Hathach went out to Mordecai in the open square of the city in front of the king’s gate.
Mordecai told him everything that had happened to him, including the exact amount of money Haman had promised to pay into the royal treasury for the destruction of the Jews.
He also gave him a copy of the text of the edict for their annihilation, which had been published in Susa, to show to Esther and explain it to her, and he told him to urge her to go into the king’s presence to beg for mercy and plead with him for her people. (Esther 4:6-8 NIV)
Who will stand up for this nation? Will you? At Mordecai’s initiative what Esther did became a memorable event regularly observed by the people of Israel.
And Mordecai wrote these things, and sent letters unto all the Jews that were in all the provinces of the king Ahasuerus, both nigh and far,
To stablish this among them, that they should keep the fourteenth day of the month Adar, and the fifteenth day of the same, yearly,
As the days wherein the Jews rested from their enemies, and the month which was turned unto them from sorrow to joy, and from mourning into a good day: that they should make them days of feasting and joy, and of sending portions one to another, and gifts to the poor.
And the Jews undertook to do as they had begun, and as Mordecai had written unto them. (Esther 9:20-23)
Who will arise for this nation? Where are the watchmen? Where are they that will turn the table in this nation? That will establish a day of feasting, to turn our sorrows into celebration. Where are they?
Nehemiahs of Our Time
There is need for men and women like Nehemiah’s in our generation. Nehemiah was well suited and privileged. He was in the palace as the king’s cup bearer, and whatever the king ate or drank, he tasted first. But he became burdened about his nation and the situation of his people. The scripture perfectly captured his burden and actions in his own words.
And they said unto me, The remnant that are left of the captivity there in the province are in great affliction and reproach: the wall of Jerusalem also is broken down, and the gates thereof are burned with fire.
And it came to pass, when I heard these words, that I sat down and wept, and mourned certain days, and fasted, and prayed before the God of heaven. (Nehemiah 1:3-4)
How many of us Christians in this nation will be like Nehemiah? He did not only mourn for several days, he also fasted and prayed to the God of Heaven.
And said, I beseech thee, O Lord God of heaven, the great and terrible God, that keepeth covenant and mercy for them that love him and observe his commandments:
Let thine ear now be attentive, and thine eyes open, that thou mayest hear the prayer of thy servant, which I pray before thee now, day and night, for the children of Israel thy servants, and confess the sins of the children of Israel, which we have sinned against thee: both I and my father’s house have sinned. (Neh 1:5-6)
Many situations are like the broken walls in our nation which are so visible and cry for attention. Most of our walls are fallen into gross disrepair. The wall of education, wall of healthcare, wall of security, wall of employment, the economic wall, and many such walls are badly broken fallen into disrepair.
Where are the Nehemiahs that will initiate repair of these walls? Where are the watchmen in Zion who will neither hold their peace nor rest till there comes a change? Where are they?
The scriptures in Isaiah 62:5 issues an strong word of comfort and consolation that says,
“As a man marries a virgin, so shall thy son marry thee, and as bridegroom rejoiceth over the bride, so shall thy God rejoice over thee.”
In the name of Jesus, I see a new Nigeria, a place where things are changed for the better. Where people will no longer hate their nation or despise their motherland, a place where leaders will no more invite strangers to come and steal with them and take away the loots to their countries.
But I see a new Nigeria where public amenities and utilities are reliable and are free of stress. Someone once told me that Dubai authorities are planning to build an air-conditioned stadium, when our national stadium is almost turned into a Zoo for lack of proper maintenance. It looks like an abandoned jungle where people can catch antelopes and grass cutters, and… may be even tigers are there too!
At one time or the other, many of us have tried to migrate to other countries for want of greener pastures. It may surprise if you can see the travel statistics from this country, how many Nigerians have migrated to Dubai.
As Nigerians we hold conferences in Dubai, and most times do our shopping in the land. It is also amazing to know how many crafts and artifacts have left the coasts of this country for Dubai.
But you need to know the great discomfort in journeying to this part of Arab world. When you travel out to Dubai and you are returning, once you touch down in Nigeria, you will feel like singing “O Lord our help in ages past …”. This is because of the intense heat that will welcome you with the confusion in that land.
It is such a great contrast considering the climate and seasons in Nigeria. And yet God is saying, “I’ve set watchmen upon thy walls O Nigeria, which shall never hold their peace day nor night.” And he said, “He that makes mention of the Lord, keep not silent”, till there is a new Nigeria.
Where are those that make mention of the Lord?
When God says, “I have set watchmen upon thy walls O Nigeria”, it means there are people He has appointed and given responsibility to watch over the land. The scriptures in Ezekiel 3:17 it says,
“Son of man, I have made thee a watchman unto the house of Israel”.
But the question is, “where are they? Where are the ones who make mention of the Lord? Where are they which will never keep silent day or night? Where are they?
The Verses in Isaiah 62:7 says,
“And give him no rest till he establish and till he makes Nigeria a praise in the earth.”
Where are these ones that will give God no rest, who will want to see the wonders of exploits over our nation? How about you? Are you a Christian? Where do you stand in this matter?
In any nation, the educational sector is such a crucial one. It is the cradle from which the country progress and grows into strong and virile nation. But this cradle has shrunk in relevance and it means so little in its contribution today. Consequently parents are sending their children abroad in search of quality education.
When I was in school, we had short vacation and long vacation, but nowadays our institutions of learning have been in indefinite vacation of constant long shut downs, and moral decadence and cultic practices are taking over the once astute aspiring scholars in the higher institutions. Where are the Jonathans of our time? I mean the kind of Jonathan of the Bible.
The Bible has no such word as luck or accidental. Known to God from the beginning are all His works, He knows the things he wants to do, and He gives chances and opportunity to all (ref ). He gives grace and favour, but never gives good luck. Known unto Him are His works, and He is never in doubt. His will is his way, a perfect way at that. God has His own Jonathans, but where are they?
Jonathans of our time
In the Book of 1Samuel, the Israelites had a king (Saul) that put the nation in trouble like Nigeria is in trouble today. It was a state of war and no one knew what to do. The people were all confused, until a man called Jonathan rose up in courage to the rescue.
Now it came to pass upon a day, that Jonathan the son of Saul said unto the young man that bare his armour, Come, and let us go over to the Philistines’ garrison, that is on the other side. But he told not his father.
And Saul tarried in the uttermost part of Gibeah under a pomegranate tree which is in Migron: and the people that were with him were about six hundred men;
And Ahiah, the son of Ahitub, Ichabod’s brother, the son of Phinehas, the son of Eli, the Lord’s priest in Shiloh, wearing an ephod. And the people knew not that Jonathan was gone. (1 Sam 14:1-3)
The situation was so bad that, in the whole nation in the time of war they could only find two swords in the whole nation!
They were used to depending on their enemies to supply them swords and also to sharpen their instruments. But a man who knew his God became strong and he did the needed exploit.
And Jonathan said to the young man that bare his armour, Come, and let us go over unto the garrison of these uncircumcised: it may be that the Lord will work for us: for there is no restraint to the Lord to save by many or by few.
1 Sam 14:6
Verse 2 above says that Saul tarried in the uttermost part of Gilboa under a permanganate tree with six hundred ‘impotent’ men he had mobilized. What a confused and deflated host.
God does not work with multitude! He only needs a faithful few who will say like Jonathan “let’s cross over to the philistines garrison”.
Nigeria as a nation appears in many horrible pictures. She is like a strange prostitute who ‘pays’ to get laid and his children are backward and restricted. Real prostitutes receive money to be laid, but a strange prostitute pays money to get laid. And her children are like the oppressed people who labour and pay tax to strangers in their own land. What a double tragedy for a sovereign nation.
Ali Monsuru wrote a book and titled it, “How Europe Under Developed Africa”. But we need to write this differently and say, “How Nigeria Under Developed Herself”.
As a nation we invite foreigners to come and carry away our things, and we connive with them, celebrating centenary in pomp and pageantry.
In a project scandal, certain amount in pounds or dollars was paid as bribe by a man to secure the contract, and when this person got the order for the project, he said “wow what a strange country”. He was being paid to manufacture smart phones (which he also sold to Nigerians for profit).
The Land is in travail, and yet the Lord has said in Isaiah 62 that He has set watchmen over our walls. Where are these watchmen, people of like minds who will neither hold their peace nor rest for Nigeria sake.
“I have set watchmen upon thy walls, O Jerusalem, which shall never hold their peace day nor night: ye that make mention of the Lord, keep not silence,
And give him no rest, till he establish, and till he make Jerusalem a praise in the earth.” (Isa 62:6-7)
Where are those concerned men, who for Nigeria’s sake will not hold their peace, or rest until the righteousness thereof goes forth as brightness, and the salvation thereof as a light that shines, those who will make up their minds that the heathen, the unbelievers shall see our righteousness and all kings our glory. That Nigeria will be called by a new name, and no more be seen in the negative.
Corruption in her high places
Like locusts and caterpillars, leaders who ought to build the nation are busy tearing down the country in their wanton lifestyle of corruption. I remember one of our governors whom the people had wanted to strip naked in protest, telling him “leave our son alone, he did not steal”.
Of course, almost all the judges that handled the boy’s case had pronounced him “not guilty”, even though at the beginning he may been a bad guy. It took another country to tell us that we were dealing with “wonderful people” as leaders. And they called us a “strange country”.
It means people outside who are afar off appear to know us better than we know ourselves. But then the Lord is saying that Nigeria will be called by a new name.
“Thou shalt no more be termed Forsaken; neither shall thy land any more be termed Desolate: but thou shalt be called Hephzi-bah, and thy land Beulah” (Isa 62:4b)
For this purpose He has raised watchmen and put them in the tower upon her walls, those who will cry out for this nation.
Who will cry out for her?
We need to ask, where are these men upon on our walls, the watchmen who will cry out for the sake of Nigeria? Who, like the prophet in Isaiah 62, will say “for Nigeria sake I will not hold my peace, for the sake of the land I will not rest until the righteousness thereof goes forth as brightness, and salvation thereof as a lamp that burneth”. Men who will say “until the whole world sees the glory of God upon this nation, and we are called by a new name…”
There is need for those men who will be resolute that Nigeria will also be a crown of glory, and a royal diadem in the hand of our God.
This is a season of wonders and exploits, and the Lord is saying that we shall no more be termed forsaken; neither shall our land be termed desolate.
The economy and manufacturing scenes have become so backward and deplorable. Companies are packing their loads and relocating to Ghana, Cameroon and Togo, and they are confirming these as their headquarters. And consequently, more and more people are losing their jobs.
Even in the medical arena doctors are migrating from the country, and Nigerians are living in the fear of being forsaken. But God is saying as we seek Him we shall be called by a new name.
In warring state and turmoil
Our situation today appears to be worse than that of a war zone. In a war zone, people know they are fighting a battle.
Even though as a nation we are not fighting a war, the number of deaths being recorded weekly is appalling, something that even the people who are fighting a war sometimes do not record.
We have continued to lose innocent lives on our streets and highways. There is news of countless accidents on our roads, the ships that capsize, the awful stories of killings in Maiduguri and other northern parts of the country where there is no communication, and people are disappearing. Sometimes bodies are buried en masse.
How many nations are fighting wars among themselves? And even those who do, how many are falling as casualties?
Beloved, if you want to know that we are in a state of war, go to a police station or army barrack, you will discover that we are in state of siege.
Medical doctors are often on strike, God have mercy on you if you have someone who is sick in those times. But you may not understand the seriousness of our situation because of God’s faithfulness in your life.
There is a 53 year old man who at his age can’t feed himself, and still walks around in diapers, when his age mates are already grandfathers, fully grown men in boxers who are noted for their great feats and exploits.
Even at his age, he still depends on people to change his diapers. His hands are so feeble that he cannot even put food in his own mouth; he can’t feed himself except he is fed by someone!
This proverbial old man is the country called Nigeria, a great country so unique in the league of black nations. Its peculiarity is revealed in its vast resources, human, material and other natural endowments. But like the proverbial child of Galatians 1:1, he has remained in the valley of despondency and sore degradation, a sovereign nation that was first among its black counterparts.
When a child refuses to grow, he becomes stunted and lacks the characteristics of an adult. He will not be able to make his own choices and decide on issues which affect him.
Now I say, That the heir, as long as he is a child, differeth nothing from a servant, though he be lord of all;
But is under tutors and governors until the time appointed of the father.
Even so we, when we were children, were in bondage under the elements of the world:
The New international Version puts it this way:
What I am saying is that as long as the heir is a child, he is no different from a slave, although he owns the whole estate.
He is subject to guardians and trustees until the time set by his father.
So also, when we were children, we were in slavery under the basic principles of the world. (NIV)
This explains why a nation can be politically independent and yet continue ‘in dependence’ on other nations. Even though ‘independent’ for 53 years, we have remained ‘in dependence’ on others to feed us and direct our ways!
Like the lamentable vineyard in Isaiah chapter 5, the nation is a horrified garden full of stones and gravels of corrupt officials and leaders, even though richly endowed like a fertilized and well watered garden from the beginning, the nation has become a dry wilderness invaded by wild animals and dreadful elements which devour her own people.
I will sing for the one I love a song about his vineyard: My loved one had a vineyard on a fertile hillside.
He dug it up and cleared it of stones and planted it with the choicest vines. He built a watchtower in it and cut out a winepress as well. Then he looked for a crop of good grapes, but it yielded only bad fruit. (Isa 5:1-2 NIV)
The nation is like an old adult who does not know his left from his right, majoring in the minor and minoring in the major. He hides from the realities of his conditions, celebrating mediocrity and disdained meritocracy, disguised in the pomp of independence celebration.
The nation is like a confused mother of many children who depends on people to feed her children. Rather than look within her own garden and cistern, she imports most of the things she feeds to her children – rice, chicken, turkey and even tooth picks.
Her importers import from dollar to wine, and material things including used clothes. And virtually everything is but product of importation.
Even though a major exporter of fuel, the nation poorly satisfies her people, we export crude oil and import refined fuel. What an irony! A less privileged small country of Niger has been ‘feeding’ the giant of Africa with fuel.
But this is the same strong and magnificient EAGLE called Nigeria. A nation many have looked up to in times past. Is there still any more hope for the eagle that is bowed and confined to the barn at the backyard that pecks on dead and decaying organic matter around like a chicken? And people are asking, “Will this eagle fly again?”
Nigeria is old in numbers like a baby that is stricken in years, but yet has remained an infant, an independent but dependent country at 53. Who will help the eagle to fly again!
But as for us Christians, this is our Jerusalem, and like the city of David where in is Zion, we are the spiritual house of God, the redeemed of the Lord who believe on the Lord Jesus Christ. We are the Zion of God!
And God has set up watchmen upon our walls in Zion to keep watch day and night.
I have set watchmen upon thy walls, O Jerusalem, which shall never hold their peace day nor night: ye that make mention of the Lord, keep not silence,
And give him no rest, till he establish, and till he make Jerusalem a praise in the earth. (Isa 62:6-7)
This shows how much God cares for us. The essence of city walls and bulwarks is to prevent enemy’s invasion and attack on a land.
A city wall is thus a fortified fence around a city or town, usually built with timber, stones or bricks, and could be as wide as 18 feet wide (or thickness).
The wall is so wide that, several horses can move alongside each other without colliding, especially in a security patrol or surveillance. (Some Bible scholars have described the wall of Jerusalem as one that can take at least six horses running side by side).
Sometimes houses are also built on the city wall, such as the one Rahab the harlot occupied in the wall of Jericho.
Sometimes the enemies could only lay a siege around a city to prevent the dwellers from going out or coming in. The resultant effect of a siege is hunger and famine which sometimes may force the city to come out of the gate with a white flag as a sign of surrender to the enemy.
This was the case with the city of Samaria which was besieged by three kings of Syria, Moab and Mount Seir in alliance against them. The people starved to the point of eating their children turn by turn, if not for the intervention of God who drove away the Syrian army from their camp, the people would have probably surrendered or die of famine (2Kings Chapter 7 and 8).
Building city walls is this very important, that the preacher in the book of Proverbs had described an unfaithful person as “a city without a wall and a foot out of joint”.
A watch tower is usually constructed on the top of each gate (Jerusalem had 12 gates according to the number of tribes in Israel in those days which I think are still maintained till now) Once the city wall is built watchmen are appointed for each tower as a watch man.
The duty of a watchman is to mount a watch, and to raise alarm (blowing his trumpet) to alert the city of an impending attack of enemy invasion.
Spiritually speaking the Lord has made a fortified bulwark, which is described as a wall of fire around us that believe. And He has also appointed watchmen upon our walls to watch day and night and cry for her.
The watchmen in this context are the spiritual caretakers, intercessors and those that stand in the gap in the Church of the Living God.
These are men who labour in prayer to birth the righteousness and glory of God in the land. Men like Nehemiah, men like Gideon, men like David and the host of them, who will not rest until Nigeria becomes a praise among the nations of the world.
A land greatly blessed and ordained by God to flourish in all things. A land of beautiful people, places and cultures. And Like a vial full of good things, our vast endowments and resources are remarkable and mind boggling. But what can we see in the land? A nation languishing in poverty and siege imposed on her by her very people.
And we have become like the proverbial vineyard of Isaiah Chapter Five that was overgrown with thorns and briers, and, full of stones instead of good garden soil, one in which wild animals and beasts have taken over and all manners of evils reign in her borders (Isa 5:1-2).
Even though God is committed to seeing us become a wonder and praise on the earth and would never trade his glory and praise upon us for anything, Nigeria has become a nation of many troubles, oppression and wars. But God is still committed to seeing us become a praise among the people of the world.
He said “For Zion’s sake will I not hold my peace, and for Nigeria’s sake I will not rest, until the righteousness thereof go forth as brightness, and the salvation thereof as a lamp that burns”.
Because God is present among the believers in Nigeria, the prophecy in Isaiah 62:1-12 is relevant and consequential for us.
1 For Zion’s sake will I not hold my peace, and for Jerusalem’s sake I will not rest, until the righteousness thereof go forth as brightness, and the salvation thereof as a lamp that burneth.
2 And the Gentiles shall see thy righteousness, and all kings thy glory: and thou shalt be called by a new name, which the mouth of the Lord shall name.
3 Thou shalt also be a crown of glory in the hand of the Lord, and a royal diadem in the hand of thy God.
4 Thou shalt no more be termed Forsaken; neither shall thy land any more be termed Desolate: but thou shalt be called Hephzi-bah, and thy land Beulah: for the Lord delighteth in thee, and thy land shall be married.
5 For as a young man marrieth a virgin, so shall thy sons marry thee: and as the bridegroom rejoiceth over the bride, so shall thy God rejoice over thee.
6 I have set watchmen upon thy walls, O Jerusalem, which shall never hold their peace day nor night: ye that make mention of the Lord, keep not silence,
7 And give him no rest, till he establish, and till he make Jerusalem a praise in the earth.
When we say that this nation is God’s own country, you may have wondered whether this is still true that we are a nation that is recognized and blessed by God.
No matter how much is the level of righteousness or number of unrighteous people in a land, as long as the righteous ones are found in that land, the land have the recognition of God and His blessings abides on that land.
Nigeria is a nation in God’s hands. That the country is in darkness today with all manners of unrighteousness, oppression, depravity and siege does not mean God has forgotten about her.
In fact what you may have seen in the land, how unrighteousness and wickedness are being enthroned in high places, and her children in untold pains of oppression are all evidence of her deplorable condition. But the word of God still abides for her as God’s land of Promise, and He will yet visit and heal her of all her ailments and calamities. This is why God has set watchmen over the land. But where are these watchmen upon the wall? But where are they?
1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.(Prov 15v1)
2). Don’t expose your husband’s weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you.You are each other’s keeper.(Eph 5v12)
3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don’t have a happy home.(Prov 15v13)
4). Never compare your husband to other men, you’ve no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.
5). Never ill treat your husband’s friends because you don’t like them, the person who’s supposed to get rid of them is your husband.(Prov 11v22)
6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.(Gen 2v24)
7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.(Eph 5v33)
8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.(Deut 3v28)
9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband’s sweat is too precious to be wasted.
10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband sex. You must give it to him how he wants it. Sex is very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter if time before another woman takes over theat duty. No man can withstand sex starvation for too long(even the anointed ones) (SS 7v12)
11). Never compare your husband to your one time sex mate in bedroom, or an Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.(SS 5v9)
12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.(Prov 31v23)
13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don’t do that.(Eph 4v31)
14). Don’t forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.(Prov 12v4)
15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.
16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.( 1 Sam 25v3)
17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don’t waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.(Luke 21v16)
18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?
19). Don’t forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home. (Gal 6v9)
20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always teamwork. (Gal 6v10)
21). Don’t be too judgemental to your husband. No man wants a Nagging wife.(Eph 4v29)
22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn’t even know that her body needs a bath.(Prov 24v27)(Prov 20v13)
23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food?, try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food. (Prov 31v14)
24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.(Luke 11v3)
25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty. (Prov 31v11)
26). Don’t associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.(Prov 22v14)
27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.(Heb 13v4)
28). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.(Prov 22v6)
29). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason. (Prov 31v28)
30). A prayerful wife is a better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family(1 Thess 5v17)
God bless you.
God is always in need of men to turn around the situation of a land, men with burden and vision who desire to see the praise and glory of God breaking forth upon their land, men who will not rest until they see a turnaround in prosperity and peace upon their land, those who will cry out to the Lord and bring down His hand upon their situation.
Before the enemies could run down a land, its watchmen must have first failed in their watch. They must have failed to cry and raise alarm to wake up the valiant men.
It is double tragedy when such men are distracted or fall asleep. There is a cry in the streets, cries of lamentation, “Where are the watchmen?” Where are they?
Whenever a nation is in confusion or crisis a certain individual or group of people must come to her rescue that is if the nation would not collapse completely. Sometimes the nation of Israel was being oppressed by the invading Midianites, the Amalekites and those from the east.
The people would have labored in planting and nurturing their crops till maturity, and when it was time for harvest the wicked enemies would appear and carry away the harvest, leaving them impoverished and bewildered.
This continued until a man stood up and said, “By the way, what is the matter? “For how long will this oppression continue like this?”
That was Gideon, a man of the tribe of Manasseh with a heavy burden in his heart.
In his plan one day he decided to go to the fields very early to thresh some wheat and keep in a hideout, where he thought the invading enemies would not see it. That was the beginning of change, because God visited empowered him to deliver his people from oppression.
There are needed men and women who will arise for this land, and like the faithful watchmen upon her walls that will neither sleep nor slumber, they see her become a praise among the nations.
Like a trumpet sounding out of Zion, this is a calling to awake the watchmen upon the walls of Jerusalem (Nigeria). In this book, the author imparts the burden and vision of a new desirable country, one re-established in righteousness and glory of God as in the beginning.
He believes that if God will find only a handful few, this land will be turned around for good. But where are they that love Zion, who will cry for her day and night, till the Lord makes her a praise. Where are the watchmen? Where are they?
Don’t ever beat your wife for any reason. Prov. 19:11, Prov. 20:3
Don’t ever forget that your wife is your greatest asset. Prov. 12:4, Prov.18:22
Don’t ever forget to check the level of peace of your wife. Prov. 27:17
Don’t associate with men that lack credibility and generational mindset. Prov.13:20
Don’t ever hurt your wife no matter the level of insults passed on you. Col. 3:19, 1Pet. 2:19-20
Don’t ever wave off the ideas, advice or suggestions of your wife because of your selfish interest. Pro. 1:5, Pro.19:20
Never treat your wife as a servant.Eph. 5:29
Never make your wife a negative case study before friends and family. Prov. 5:18, Prov. 21:23
Never doubt your wife no matter what you know about her past. 1Cor.13:5.
Don’t deny your wife of sex. 1Cor.7:4-5.
Don’t be careless about the welfare of your home. 1Tim. 5:8
Don’t compare your wife with anyone. 2Cor. 10:12
Never cheat on your wife no matter the condition. Prov. 6:32, Prov. 5:20
Never cut short the love you showed to your wife, rather, water it, and nurture it for effective continuous growing. Eph. 5:28-29
Never disregard the effort of your wife, rather appreciate her more and more. Prov. 31:28b
Never discuss the weak points of your wife at public opinion polls. Prov. 5:17
Don’t call your wife unpleasant names such as prostitute, witch, fruitless entity, harlot, useless wife, bastard, rather call her blessed, precious, capable, beautiful and virtuous woman. Col. 4:6, Prov. 31:28-29
NEVER EVER PLACE YOUR FRIENDS, FAMILY OR WORK ABOVE YOUR WIFE.
Don’t be self centered. Eph. 5:28, Phil. 2:3-4
Don’t ever cook up plans against your wife because of your lustful desires.
Never set up a family without having a family vision. Prov. 29:18, Hab. 2:2-3
Never make your wife feel inferior and uneducated before your friends, family, anyone or even you the husband.
Never compare your wife’s attitude with your one time girlfriend’s attitude. 2Cor.10:12
Don’t be lazy to cater for your wife and family. 1Tim. 5:8
Never allow money to be the bond of love in your marriage. 1Tim. 6:10
Never allow your parents or family members to dictate the affairs of your home, remember, ‘’therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife………’’. Gen. 2:23-24.
Don’t ever let your children come between you and your wife. You married your wife not your children, remember they have their life to live and when married and gone, only your wife will still be with you, to cook for you, comfort you, refresh your body, soul and spirit in the bedroom. Matt. 19:6
Never hide any phone calls, text messages, or password to mailbox from your wife. Transparency is the ultimate key to continuous trust and confidence in marriage. Rom. 12:9-10
Never owe your wife anything, always give her the very best; best in love, best care, most precious things and that which belongs to her. Rom.13:8
Never show a heart of ungratefulness to God and your precious wife, always and always be ever grateful for their presence in your life. Prov. 31:28b
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